Good Love vs. Bad Love

Is there a difference between Good and Bad Love?

Abso-freaking-lutely!

February is Teen Dating Violence awareness month. Did you know that 1 in 3 teens has been abused in a dating relationship?

ONE IN THREE!!

If you have kids, think about your child and two of their friends together. One of them is likely to have already been abused, or will be. I don’t know about you, but that’s just wrong to me on so many levels. I have a fourteen year old, and we talk about it often. I make sure she knows the signs of abuse, and I watch her carefully when she not only talks about herself, but about her friends.

Did you know that only 1 in 9 will seek help? WHAT? One in nine! And with that only 33% of abused teens have ever told anyone. So three out of 9 told someone, but those other two who didn’t get help probably made the person they told promise not to say anything. I mean, teens like secrets, and swearing on each others privacy, right? Oh, no!

Abuse isn’t something to keep secret. Nope. Not when you are 6, 12, 18, 23, 37, 49, or 70. Abuse is never okay to keep secret.

 

But let’s talk about some of the signs of Teen Dating Abuse. This is a list of WARNING SIGNS:

  • Checking your cell phone or email without permission (Digital Abuse)
  • Constantly putting you down
  • Extreme jealousy or insecurity
  • Explosive temper
  • Isolating you from family or friends (HUGE WARNING SIGN)
  • Making false accusations
  • Mood swings
  • Physically hurting you in any way
  • Possessiveness
  • Telling you what to do

Let me just give you a few facts to keep in mind:

  • Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence, almost triple the national average.
  • Among female victims of intimate partner violence, 94% of those age 16-19 and 70% of those age 20-24 were victimized by a current or former boyfriend or girlfriend.
  • Violent behavior often begins between the ages of 12 and 18.

So what do you do if you think your child, or your friends child is being abuse?

YOU SAY SOMETHING!!

To them, their parents, a teacher, someone who can help that young person see that what is happening is abusive and they do not deserve that. Because let’s face it, victims think they deserve it. I did. I know a lot of other survivors who say they thought the same thing. So we need to make sure they know they are not the cause, they are the victim.

Want more information? Check out?http://www.loveisrespect.com where they talk in depth about dating violence and abuse. They have some great resources there, too! They also have a QUICK EXIT in case you’re a victim who is looking for help and your abuser shows up in the room.

Here are two quizzes they offer to see if you are in a healthy relationship or advice on how you can help.

Like this one – A Healthy Relationship Quiz!

Or this one – How Would You Help?

Author Stacy Eaton is a very strong Advocate of Domestic Violence Awareness and helping victims to be come survivors. She herself is a survivor and has written several books dealing with the intense subject: Whether I’ll Live or Die, You’re Not Alone and Barbara’s Plea, along with a New Adult story about finding confidence in yourself, Finding the Strength.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Now you can do something to help spread awareness, just by downloading a book.?

?From October 11th – October 31st if you download any of the following three books, a portion of the proceeds will be donated to Domestic Violence Awareness.?

I’m a huge supporter of the Domestic Violence campaigns. For years as a Police Officer I saw the worst of the worst. From verbal arguments to homicide at the hands of a partner, I saw the devastation that it caused. Not only did I see it first hand, but there was a time in my life that I too lived as a victim. That is why I spent several years working on the Board of Directors for my local Domestic Violence Center, and why I write stories to educate people about what happens behind closed doors and inside the mind of a victim.
What you can do to help – Purchase a copy of one of these books, or all three, and a portion of each sale will be donated to a Domestic Violence Center.
Note: At this time, these three books are only available on Amazon. The Kindle Reader App is free to download on Amazon.

You’re Not Alone

?Trinity Morris, co-founder of You?re Not Alone, has a domestic violence
past that still haunts her ten years later. She is devoted to helping
victims find freedom and to sharing information on how to help them
through their emotional and violent trials. While Trinity is presenting
at a seminar, she comes across Gavin, a police officer who knows her
past all too well.It?s been ten years since he last saw her, but
the moment Gavin?s eyes land on her, he?s intent on getting to know the
woman who has haunted his dreams all these years.

Can Gavin
break through the wall that Trinity has built around herself, or will
the present and the past collide and take her away from him again?

Check out the Video Trailer:

 

Amazon

?Whether I’ll Live of Die

??It sounded so simple in theory; ready… aim… fire… but what actually transpired was so much more.?

Officer Nicole Nolan holds the gun steady in her hands, knowing that life will
be forever altered once she pulls the trigger. Her position as a small
town police officer is to protect those who cannot protect themselves.
It is her job, her career and her life.
Amanda stands where
protection does not exist. With several failed relationships behind her,
Amanda turns a blind eye to the possessiveness Josh displays in order
to sooth her desperate need to be loved. As the mental abuse turns
violent, Amanda must deal with the denial and embarrassment of being a
victim once again. With her emotional and physical health siting on the
edge, she must fight to regain control of her life.
A gripping story with one final destination, but will it be life or death?
Check out the Video Trailer:

 

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Barbara’s Plea

?Barbara lives in constant fear of her husband. She finally summons the
courage to leave with their young daughter, Allie, but dreads the moment
her husband learns of their escape. In his desire to control them and
bend them to his will, he will leave no stone unturned to punish
them–especially Barbara.Grey?s future seems bleak,
especially the day he is fired, but everything begins to turn around the
moment he absently sinks down on a bench occupied by wealthy Gloria
Withers. Gloria sees something in him that no one else bothers to notice
and, within moments, a friendship is sparked that will withstand many
trials.

When Barbara makes good her escape and arrives on the
doorstep of her grandmother, Gloria, whom she hasn’t seen for years,
Barbara is greeted instead by Grey. It doesn’t take long for a different
kind of spark to fly as Barbara takes up residence in the Withers
mansion.

When Grey falls inexorably in love with not only
Barbara, but also her daughter Allie, he vows to do everything he can to
protect them from her husband who is out for revenge.

Check out the video Trailer

 

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You’re Not Alone has been Released!

It’s Official ~ You’re Not Alone has been released and for one week only it will at $0.99!

Don’t forget to view the Video Trailer!? It’s Intense!

Early Amazon Reviews

“I won’t lie, this book is intense! Writing about domestic abuse has got to be a tough thing to do, but experiencing it has got to be even tougher. Stacy Eaton blew me away, once again.”

“This is another emotional and powerful story about domestic abuse, and how victims can start a new life, knowing that there?s hope and they are, indeed, are not alone. ”

“It is hard to categorize this story into a particular genre. There is suspense, police procedure, domestic abuse and an amazing love story.”

“This book is so much more than a romance. With strong compelling characters, it shows the long term impacts of domestic violence on women as well as men.”

To say this was a great book when it?s about domestic violence seems wrong but it was so good. It was a real eye opener to what domestic violence is and what it can do to women. The author does a fantastic job of explaining the different types of violence and how it effects women in the story and yet make it a beautiful story about true love.

You’re Not Alone is an emotional, inspiring story of a woman and a man, both of whom have survived abuse in their life, finding each other and finding happiness together. The author drew me into this book from the very first chapter – she teases the reader with the possibility of recognition between the Trinity and Gavin – and makes the reader NEED to read on.

As the story unfolds your heart will fill with the love that Gavin shows her, and how Trinity comes to trust Gavin, and even herself – to fall in love again. But the DV scenes will have you tied in knots.
When you have never suffered any kind of abuse – mental or physical – it is hard to understand how others put up with it. But reading Stacy’s books helps you grasp how the partner cuts them off from their family and friends, belittles them until they feel worthless and believe all the untrue and unkind words that are spat at them, and possibly even makes them believe they deserve the beating, due to something they have or haven’t done. This book certainly opened my eyes.

To purchase You’re not Alone!

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Kobo: http://bit.ly/1JCvvTI

ITunes: http://bit.ly/1FI7gIV

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